Sizzling Summer Reads at The Romance Reviews

 

Stop by The Romance Reviews throughout July for their Sizzling Summer Reads event to celebrate erotic and GLBT stories from a number of different authors. Make you you register on the website for the chance to win prizes, including tickets to RomCon 2011.

I’ll be there on 12 July with an easy-peasy question that’ll earn you a copy of my imminent release with Total-E-Bound, Two With A View.

Don’t miss out on your chance to win at The Romance Reviews from 1 July!

What Would You Do Differently?

‘The past is a foreign country, they do things differently there.’

One of my favourite lines – the very first one in L. P. Hartley’s The Go Between

I don’t tend to have regrets, as such, because I think that all my experience—good and bad—help to shape who I am today…and I like who I am. As RuPaul says: ‘If you don’t love yourself, how the hell you gon’ love somebody else?’

Of course, that doesn’t mean there aren’t a few people I could have done without encountering, but that can’t be helped and can’t be stopped…I’m sure there are a great deal more wasters and ne’er-do-wells I’m yet to meet. Take a wide swerve or cut them out and move on.

While regretting things is a massive waste of time and energy, I do sometimes wonder what my life would be like had I chosen differently, walked a different route. Could have been infinitely worse or so much better, but everything that has gone before has been for a reason. Maybe it was all meant to be and my path has already been chosen.

No matter whether I am the master of my own destiny or my path has already been set, I’ll take it as it comes and relish it all.

What about you?

First Impressions Last

You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

An old adage that I last heard a few days ago when uttered by Judge Judy (love her!). Although it was warranted (the defendant was dressed completely inappropriately for court—even a TV court), she laid into him before the facts of the case were confirmed. Her first impression of him came purely from his appearance (which also included a skinhead and more earrings than I could count), but what if your first impression is wrong?

The aforementioned defendant only had himself to blame because he had the choice to change his appearance. However, many of us don’t need anything as trivial as clothing to make judgements of others. We look at things like height, build, gender and race in order to read people and make a decision about their personalities.

I hate people who are so judgemental and closed-minded, especially as the reality is usually very different to what is imagined. The tiny, cute elderly person can actually be malicious and hateful; the guy in a hooded-top is actually not a mugger and is merely having a bad hair day/keeping warm; the tall, broad man strapped with muscle is far from a thug and is actually a sweetheart.

I think about the impressions my characters make when they are first encountered by the reader, knowing that an opinion is immediately formed. Then—wicked writer that I am—I delight in seeing if I can make them change their mind. Whether it’s a single act that seems out of place or whether it seems to be a complete personality change. It makes people think, much like they should do in real life.

People should take the opportunity to take a second glance, as they may well find that they got it wrong the first time.

Different Strokes for Different Folks

Different strokes for different folks—Isn’t it a lovely phrase? Even if it can sound a little corny when uttered. It makes sense and it rhymes…and I do like my rhymes.

There are a great deal of phrases that bounce around in common parlance, many of which have unknown origins and even more that seem to make no sense whatsoever, but strokes for folks can be relied upon to make sense.   

I used it in response to a boaster who felt the need to regale me with tales of what his skills were capable of doing to a woman. Yes, I tend to attract the braggarts of the world, so I get treated to all manner of braggadocios stories. (All mouth and no trousers—another great phrase). He seemed to assume that I would be impressed, probably thought he could turn me on. Alas, neither was the case.

I wonder if there are more hermits around than I thought as there is no other explanation for people believing what works for one will work for all. If you live in the world, it stands to reason that you’d be aware that you are surrounded by different types of people who like different things.

Not just applicable to sex, I actually thought about the topic when considering two reviews—one great and one so-so. One person’s slush piler could make another person’s top ten favourite list, because—as in all aspects of life—people think differently.

I’m sure that for many it comes from selfishness, not recognising that other people’s opinions may differ from their own. For others, it’s more to do with ignorance, for example, believing that all women react in a certain way, or all French people have certain characteristics.

Individuality is fantastic, allowing us to learn, grow and blend, which many people would do well to remember. Assumptions only create asses.                                

I don’t even want to imagine how immensely boring the world would be if we were all the same.

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